MASTER THE FUNDAMENTAL EMOTIONAL SKILLS OF– Self Awareness, self soothing, unique-to-you creativity
THE SLOW STARTUP
A step-by-step coaching experience that gets your body & brain ready for BIG CHANGE– whatever that might end up being. For me, it was leaving my company and the safety of my home and doing something I'd dreamt about my entire life– moving abroad.
For you, it will be something different. And it will be spectacular.
PS– that's me floating in the Aegean Sea just in front of my tiny seaside apartment, captured by my friend and photographer Courtney.
HERE'S THE THING–
IT'S SIMPLE. YOU WANT SOMETHING TO CHANGE. YOU WANT TO EVOLVE, TAKE A CHANCE, SAY YES TO SOMETHING BIG.
HERE'S WHAT STOPS YOU–
YOUR UNCONSCIOUS BRAIN IS TOO TERRIFIED TO JUMP ON BOARD.
SO YOU SIT IN CONFUSION. STAGNATION. PROCRASTINATION. YOU BELIEVE IT'S A MATTER OF TIMING, OR OF FINDING THE RIGHT PLAN OR SOLUTION, OR THE RIGHT GURU TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. THE PROBLEM IS THAT NONE OF THAT WORKS UNTIL YOU BEGIN THE CONVERSATION WITH YOUR SCARED BRAIN. YOU CAN CHANGE AS MANY CIRCUMSTANCES AS YOU WANT, A FEARFUL BRAIN WILL FIND A WAY TO TELL YOU WHAT IT WANTS TO STOP YOUR FORWARD MOMENTUM TOWARD A FUTURE IT BELIEVES IS JUST TOO RISKY FOR YOU.
YOUR BRAIN WILL OF COURSE SAY THIS–
“It's not the right time.
You don't have enough money.
What if you lose it all?
You need more time to think about it.”
TO A SCARED BRAIN THAT ISN'T BEING COACHED–
You simply will never take intentional action until you've learned to have productive conversations with this side of you.
There is no need to go it alone, and in fact, it's nearly impossible to do this work alone.
This type of work is most effectively done in collaboration and partnership with someone who will not be triggered by your dreams, your thoughts, your circumstances. Coaches are taught to hold space and that means that our aim is neutrality, and in my case I see myself on the side of your future self. I want what you want. I will orient my own thinking to help you make that come true, but I will also treat your past and preset selves with care, kindness and compassion. There's no shame or judgement allowed here. And there's no pressure to make any moves quickly. What we're after is clarity and calm. Take the time you desire to take the leap in the way that will support your life in the best way possible.
Ok, so how can i BEGIN RIGHT NOW?
You'll schedule your 20-minute intro and planning call upon purchase, and there we'll set up your weekly coaching calls. And (good news!!) as soon as you press purchase, you'll get access to Workbook One. It will get you moving immediately.
$750
A new sliding-scale pricing is available!
FREE– This option is for those who are struggling to meet their own basic needs.
HALF OFF– This is for those of you who sometimes struggle with basic needs and security, but it's not as often as others.
FULL PRICE– This is for those of you who don't struggle to meet your basic needs on a consistent basis and/or have access to safe support.
USE CODES: FREEE (with 3 ‘E’s) or 50PERCENT
So, what are clients saying?
"I feel great knowing I've made a choice for my future self and told the world to shut up. I recognize that I can make these decisions, no matter how small, and can feel the immediate impact of them - seriously, I have already lost the weight of the world because I realize what I think about my life is actually more important than what anyone else says or thinks."
T O R I
"Before this program I was lost and confused, unsure of myself and my own thoughts. I was anxious and nervous, unable to control the demons in my head and also unable to identify them, pinpoint them, call them out and push them away.
I joined because I felt a true connection to the writing and style/vibe of Steph, I was attracted to her strength and confidence. I desperately wanted to understand how to move forward."
K E L L Y
“Group coaching was so powerful! I didn’t expect for it to work on all of us simultaneously. Even when the others were sharing about their intimate relationships, I found myself having emotional releases and grieving some of my relationship expectations. It was really surprising how much I was able to release while others were the ones sharing.”
A L L I E
the entire point
You are driving the car of your life. So annoying, I know. But let's teach you better driving.
There is no one right answer, but there is an answer that's right for you, right now. Let's choose a path, together.
Your career is affected tremendously by your personal, human self. Let's align them.
The quality of your life experience is tremendously affected by your personal, human self. Let's ease your daily emotional pain.
Your body has a lot of clarity to share with you, but do you know how to listen? Let's get to know your true self.
What you should do next is already inside of you, along with HOW you will do it. It's just being blocked by your fearful brain. Once we begin a conversation with it, you'll be able to access your autonomy and clarity. It is all right there, just waiting for you to acknowledge it.
CULTIVATE SELF KNOWING, SELF-SOOTHING & TAKE ACTION TOWARD THE LIFE THAT'S MEANT FOR YOU
THE SLOW STARTUP
$750
What can you expect?
ONE–CLARITY
You will figure some shit out. It's inevitable.
TWO– CERTAINTY
No more going back and forth or stalling.
THREE– YOU WILL FORM A NEW BOND WITH YOUR SELF
You have been ignoring, silencing, neglecting your self. You will have awareness about this.
FOUR– PATTERN BREAKING
You will most likely stop repeating unhelpful patterns that get you no where closer to where you want to be.
Hi,
I’m
STEPH
I actually had to stop giving a F about what everyone thought about me in order to solve for what my heart wanted most. It was so scary and painful and FREEING. I wanted to change, but I didn't know what I wanted or how to do it or even when to begin making changes. It was confusing and rocky and absolutely glorious.
Now? There's no more confusion. Scarcity is in check. I have awareness and control over my thoughts. My opinion of my self matters more than anything. I have beautiful professional partnerships and friendships with other women.
What a change.
What a relief.
PROGRAM FAQ'S
Do i need to have OR WANT A BUSINESS TO BE IN THIS PROGRAM?
No. The Slow Startup pertains to your innate individual contribution to the world. If you're a human who lives in this society you contribute with your time, money, energy, caretaking, problem-solving, presence. Whatever relationships you're in are affected by your thoughts, the world as it is and your own internalized thinking. Our goal is to align the relationships so that your everyday is filled with purposeful and intentional relationships– to others and to your work.
WILL I LEARN HOW TO CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN?
Yes. But a business plan is a living, breathing thing. It's not just for businesses but for anyone who wants to create more intentional ways to spend their time, money, energy and get back what they also want– more time spent in energizing-to-you ways, more money or resources, more confidence around this entire system.
WILL THIS PROGRAM HELP ME DETERMINE WHAT SORT OF BUSINESS OR JOB I WANT TO HAVE NEXT?
Yes. This method connects you to knowing. It shows you why your brain chooses confusion and what to do to get to truth and clarity. It will also help you create vision for that next step, and that is crucial for getting to it.
DO I HAVE TO CREATE A BUSINESS PLAN?
No. You will learn how to create a plan. It will be tailored to the goals you have and actions you want to take over the next year. Maybe you want to find a new job, or leave a relationship, or get a promotion, or buy a new house, or get out of debt , or pitch an important project to your husband or begin to renovate your home. Whatever the important project is in your life, it will require a plan. And if you're stuck, this program provides you a framework to get un-stuck.
IN ADDITION TO OUR WEEKLY LESSONS + MONTHLY WORKBOOKS YOU GET
WEEKLY GROUP
COACHING WITH ME
Use these to refine your thinking, ask important questions and get coaching from me. Your confusion doesn't stand a chance against my brain and my love for you. 🤍
SO, HOW DOES IT WORK?
3 Months / 3 Fundamental Foundations (You, The World, Your Work)
30 Truth-Seeking, Vision-Creating, Energy-Aligning Questions in a 3-part Workbook
Weekly Lessons in our 3-Part Framework– You, The World, Your Work (meet in real time or watch the recording)
Weekly Group Sessions with me (yay!!!) to help you dig deep
Unlearning internalized thinking that gets in your way
A loving, hopeful, creative, visionary partner who is on this journey with you so that you are not alone 🖤
MONTH ONE
Honestly this is the scariest part of the program, and that's why it's first. We are all pretty much terrified to look into our own brain's at first BECAUSE we haven't learned to make peace with our scared brain and it is RUTHLESS!!!
But I want to assure you that THIS WORK RIGHT HERE is what is going to set you free. It's what gives you your emotional autonomy back. You will no longer allow yourself to be held hostage by your thoughts and the emotions they cause.
It's time to take a stand against it. And allow yourself to be a human, instead of some perfect robot. It's time to make life easier on yourself, to speak more kindly to yourself.
This is scary, but it's not HARD. I promise you this. And once we rip the bandaid off the first time together, things will get better and easier and less painful.
THE RESULTS AFTER MONTH ONE–
THE SELF, AKA YOU
MONTH two
Once you've learned how to set boundaries with your own scared brain / inner mean girl / negative self talk you'll learn how to set similar boundaries with the world.
Listen, the world is both wonderful and terrible, inspiring and crushing, freeing and wanting to put you in a box. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, at least not the personal you. This is the world being the world, where it is RIGHT NOW. Will it be a different place eventually and just let trans people live their lives in peace? Hopefully. But for now, the world still sucks sometimes and you still live in it.
So, in Month Two, we learn about the structural, societal and inherited bullshit that colludes with our scared brain to keep us in line. Because you will have learned skills in Month One that help you take responsibility for calming your scared body and brain down, you will be able to see and study this work and manage your nervous system responses.
You will also have help. You are never alone in this program. You always have me, and it's crucial that you do because part of how this works is having access to a loving, neutral (but totally on the side of your future self) human who can help you in those moments of feeling alone or scared or totally fucked.
THE RESULTS AFTER MONTH TWO–
the world
MONTH THREE
Month three is when we begin to think about the future you. What does this human want out of the rest of their life? Where do they access capital now (self / job / partner / parent / etc) and where are they giving up autonomy of their decisions to the wrong person?
Whether you work for someone or not, or if you are fully-supported by a parter or parent you are not in fact owned by them. Their own scarcity might bring out some truly ugly thoughts from their side (they think that if they bring money to you that they get to call some shots that sort of dehumanize you. because it's Month three you'll be ready to hear all about this kind of stuff that would have sent your Month One self into a full-on panic attack. But actually instead of panicking you will know how to calm yourself.
Month Three is all about us thinking through the how of something from a new perspective– from a calm, excited, open-to-possibility self instead of the one that couldn't even think about any of the pieces and parts of a changed life.
It is truly remarkable the strides that my clients have made in this area. They're able to have difficult conversations, take action that brings negative consequences (disappointment from others, for instance) and do it with a calm and content spirit. THIS is where they see the most change– in their own ability to take action EVEN when the world doesn't deliver them a cushy landing every time. Why? Because that is REAL LIFE. There is no plan that gets you to somewhere new that also avoids every single potential issue.
THE RESULTS AFTER MONTH THREE–
YOUR WORK / CAREER / MONEY
Your desires matter. Your creative impulses matter. How you spend your minutes on this earth matters. I am here to help you learn how to take that first step toward a more YOU life.